This is one personality trait that stands out like a sore thumb to me. I’ve encountered several people who came across as the nicest people but after awhile I found out that the “niceness” was all a form of play-acting to get what they wanted.
I met a woman who seemed really nice at first glance and continued to be so after a few meetings. We had a friendship thing going. She was in a bad place in her life and needed help. I helped but at one point, it just got to be too much. That was when the real person stepped out and her mask of niceness was gone in an instant. I recall the numerous tweets accusing me of being heartless. Then one day I just blocked her!
I’ve met men who are in the same category. They come across as being overly nice at first meeting. I met this one guy who was a cheater, liar, and a narcissist all rolled into one. I didn’t find out about all his personality traits until much later. There was also a total lack of empathy and compassion and he kept playing the same games over and over again all the time wearing his Mr. Nice Guy mask. Things came to a head when I told him that I was pulling whatever fed his ego from him. The thing is, it didn’t affect him. He was off and running to his next victim! That is what narcissists do.
My mom lost her life to someone who came across as a very nice woman from another land. In the beginning, she was nice and won over my mother’s trust. I think that’s how they work. Once that was established, she went to work. Her goal was to find out as much as she could especially about the monetary stuff. My mom obliged thinking she was dealing with a nice person. Then one day, this woman took her life for some money and jewelry and left my mom to die in her bedroom with her head bashed in and her life seeping away. Horrific but it happened.
Beware of people who are overly nice especially those with their sorry stories. Scammers do this routine well. I’ve lost my wife, I’m raising a child on my own or there is a family emergency and I need money! The romance variety sometimes want money as well but I think they are into scamming you in another way. The ones who cheat and lie are after what they can get through emotional manipulation. They always have their eyes open for the next victim and the one who will comply to their demands! Unfortunately, the internet plays both ways. Information is at your fingertips but on the other hand, people with no good intentions are out there in masses, so tread carefully. Too nice? Ask yourself why before you venture further.
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