Month: January 2024

Jury finds Trump liable and orders him to pay a whopping and I mean a whopping sum of $83.3 million in damages to E. Jean Carroll who alleged that Trump raped her in a department store in the mid-1990s and then went on to defame her when he denied her claim.

Trump for his part walked out during closing statements and that move hurt him badly I think. The man is known for throwing a temper tantrum when something doesn’t go his way and “rule of law” is not what he stands for. He loves thumping his nose at it and he did it again on Friday but to his detriment. The huffing and puffing and blow the house down part is still to come but we will see it sooner than later. When have you known him to keep his mouth shut? At least, the grin has been wiped off his face, the one he wore after the New Hampshire win.

The man who boasted about grabbing crotch in 2016 and making light of it found himself in an uproar back then. He went on to say, “Anyone who knows me knows these words don’t reflect who I am.” His frequent derogatory remarks have proved to be a major liability for him which brings me to the present. This time around it is going to cost him in a big way. According to Roberta Kaplan, Carroll’s lawyer, “All he really understands is money and so you should award an amount of money that will make him stop. Whether that will succeed, I don’t know, I sure hope it will.”

E. Jean Carroll had this to say, “it is a huge defeat for every bully who has tried to keep a woman down.” More than that, the rule of law applies to everyone AND the man eyeing another term in the White House should learn to abide by it. However, that is a big ask of someone who has never toed the line and probably never will. That is the hard truth.

The World Court has spoken. It has ordered Israel to take steps to prevent acts of genocide. A day late and a dollar short don’t you think?

The case was brought before the court by South Africa but the order did not include an immediate ceasefire. In the ruling, 15 of the 17 judges voted for emergency measures, it covered most of what South Africa asked for short of a halt to military action in Gaza.

More than 25,000 Palestinians have been killed since Israeli forces invaded Gaza in the last four months. This ruling comes as an embarrassment to both Israel and the U.S. but Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu in his usual, I take no prisoners stance said, the charge against Israel was “outrageous” and that it has the right to defend itself.

However, ICJ’s decisions are final but the court has no way to enforce them. The 1949 Genocide Convention clearly defines genocide as “acts committed with intent to destroy, in whole or in part, a national, ethnical, racial or religious group.” Israel has one month to report back with what it has done to improve matters.

Israel, however, is not taking this sitting down. Netanyahu further went on to reiterate, “The vile attempt to deny Israel this fundamental right is blatant discrimination against the Jewish state, and it was justly rejected.” He means to defend themselves folks but this has gone way beyond the defending stage. It is clear for all to see, that is if you have your eyes open.

Finally, does it sound like Israel is going to comply?

What do you think?!!

“Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over.” Nicole Sobon

Starting over is a hard thing to do. It means accepting what has happened and making the decision to move on. It is not that simple is it? We often want to stay awhile and in some cases, we never want to let go because there is comfort in holding on. I know someone who has held on for over a decade and still refuses to let go, not because it was the best thing that had happened to him, I am sure in his mind he thinks it is, but because he is comfortable where he is and so his life is at a standstill. He rekindles the memories over and over again and never gives them time to fade. It is like a scab that refuses to heal because he keeps picking at it.

I think looking at the past and all that we’ve had to live through especially the bad parts as lessons learned instead of as things that happened which brought us to our knees, might just do the trick.

Speaking from my experience of the betrayal and the divorce that followed in my own life, it did bring me down to my knees. As I have said before, I felt like a bird with clipped wings and I was for a long time. It is only recently that I’ve decided to look at my past, mindfully go through the remnants of what was left of the life that was once mine that I realized I would never do it again. What? I would never settle for a man with no morals or integrity. These are the building blocks of any relationship and so I will not settle for less. That said, the lesson I have learned is that I won’t be dependent on one man to make me complete. I am complete as I am and learning that has opened new doors for me. I am stronger, more capable and I wouldn’t say fearless but less fearful. There are new roads to travel with my new found sense of freedom and knowledge of myself and I am taking it with me along with all the other lessons I will learn to the finish line.

“Forget what hurt you but never forget what it taught you.” Unknown

Losing a loved one is hard to bear. I was lost for awhile when it happened to me. I accompanied my friend on his final journey and back then I didn’t realize it would take superhuman strength to do that. My focus was on despair, anger, sadness and an incredible sense of unfairness. I didn’t see the strong woman emerging out of the cocoon she was in. ”I can’t” was my mantra but I learned soon enough that I was capable of so much more even if it meant losing someone very dear to me. Life was teaching me a lesson if I was willing to learn it. The problem was I wasn’t accepting any lessons at that time. I hugged and kissed him goodbye without breaking down, that came later. I think there is tremendous strength within each of us that only come into play when called upon to push ourselves to the limit. I learned that weakness is an option, an easy one, it is easy to run and hide, but the other one, strength is learned while going through what is considered the impossible and still coming out on top. I did.

When I became an empty nester, I thought life had come to a standstill for me. Being a mom was my biggest role and I relished it. He was my world. When he left to pursue what all young men do, part of me refused to let go, the selfish part. Eventually I let him go with tears in my eyes and slowly, very slowly, I learned that I was fully capable of handling this and much more. 

Life never stands still and those things that it throws our way, the ones that make us cringe and shy away or the ones that make us throw up our hands and say, this is enough, I can’t do this, well they are exactly the ones that will teach us who we are as a person, the ones that will open new doors if you let it and the ones that will take you to where you need to go. Did I pass with flying colors? Not without putting up a fight first. I cried and berated at the unfairness of it all but when I calmed down and looked within, I found the answers to go on and I learned that there was enough resources within me to battle even the worst storms one step at a time. Simplify your life, get rid of the excess that blinds you to what is happening and maybe you will learn the lessons life is teaching you. Remember it may not be fair, it may not be just but in order to get to where you need to be, it is necessary and that in itself might be the hardest lesson to learn.

“In my life, I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve lost, I’ve missed, I’ve hurt, I’ve trusted, I’ve made mistakes but most of all….I’ve learned.” Unknown

“Time and tide waits for no man.” Geoffrey Chaucer

I was discussing time with a friend and told him jokingly that this year I was going to hold on tight and make time go as slowly as possible. He laughed because he knew as well as I did that holding onto time is an impossible task and the truth is it flies and trying to keep up is the only thing to do.

Zig Ziglar said, “Lack of direction not lack of time is the problem. We all have 24-hour days.”

True but sometimes it seems that the days fly by and just when you think it is the beginning of the week, lo and behold, it’s the weekend again. When we look back, it is clear that we waste a lot of time on things that don’t matter, on people we shouldn’t be wasting our time on and perhaps just sitting around and wishing and hoping that things were different. I’ve started a routine to make the days count because lost time is just that. You are not getting it back ever again. I’ve started writing down everything I do during the course of the day. There are no hard and fast rules so I give myself permission to write down my thoughts and feelings as well as improvement ideas. Surprisingly, I’ve been keeping up and getting a lot accomplished and some days I pat myself on the back and say, “Great job, you’re giving time a run for the money! Keep it up.” It really has slowed time down for me. Try this approach, you might just like it.

“The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.” Michael Altshuler

This year I want to take the time to smell the roses which means taking more time for myself mentally and physically. I want to do things that will bring an improvement to and will enrich my life. I am not going to let a day go by without doing something productive. That said, I am going to find the time to relax, not going to sweat the small stuff and let time keep up with me instead of the other way around! Doable? Anything is doable if you put your mind to it.

“All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” J.R.R. Tolkien