It’s a gorgeous day with light fluffy clouds and blue skies. The weather forecasters didn’t get it wrong when they promised a really nice Sunday but they never do. They’ve got it down to a science.
Sitting out on the terrace with the sun’s rays picking up heat, it feels good. I had just finished decluttering my wardrobe, took the summer stuff out, made room for the warm winter clothes and bagged up the unwanted pieces that had been cluttering up my space for no other reason than to just take up space. Twice a year, I do the changeover but it never ceases to astonish me at just how much stuff I had accumulated in between seasons, unwanted things that is. I can’t seem to say, “Your time is done, it’s time for you to go.”
Perhaps humans have a tendency to hang onto things even when the expiry date has come and gone and doing so not only clutters up the limited space we have but we do the same thing with our minds as well so that it is hard to find our way through the maze that we call our mind.
The Oxford dictionary defines declutter as “removing unnecessary items from (an untidy or overcrowded place.”
How often do we declutter our minds? I don’t because unlike decluttering a wardrobe, my mind contains ‘stuff’ that I have put away under lock and key and opening it back up would be like looking straight into Pandora’s box. I have collected so much baggage from my past that I wouldn’t know what or how to get rid of what no longer serves me not that it had served me before. All that clutter were and are reminders of a past, at times beautiful memories but hidden within the joyful memories are the monsters I would rather forget. I don’t want to frolic there for too long so why do I keep them there like precious trinkets when they are not.
“You can’t reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday’s junk.” Louise Smith
That right there is the truth although most of us refuse to accept the inevitable and declutter if not once a year at least regularly to make space for what needs to be there. Alas, we are good at storing things. We carry along years and years of baggage just for the sake of reminding us how awful someone had been, we hold on to unkind things that had happened and perhaps we need these momentous to feel righteous about why we are the way we are.
Recently I spoke to a friend who lost his wife five years ago and whenever things are not going well in his life, he pulls out his ace card, his dead wife. “She was the best,” he moans trying to convince himself more than anyone else. It’s a phrase he throws out there whenever he needs to but I know and he knows that things weren’t all that great in paradise as he would like everyone to believe. Yet he keeps himself from moving forward by hanging on to the make-believe in his mind and so doesn’t give the new person a chance to come into his life. He then wonders why he can’t keep a woman by his side. No woman in her right mind would want to compete with a dead wife knowing full well that it would be a losing battle from the get-go.
“Mental clutter is the energy we consume everyday and the thoughts that take up space in our mind. It is the ‘noise’ that keeps us from seeing the world through a clear lens.” Unknown
I know someone else who had something awful happen to him. It has been years since that took place but every chance he gets he throws it out like a gauntlet and challenges anyone to pick it up and prove him wrong. He doesn’t realize that all those bad memories need to be put to rest, dwelling on them brings no solutions only anger and the refusal to move on. If you want to move on to something better, the past needs to be laid to rest. There is no other way.
I know that all of us have baggage from the past in one form or another, some less, some more and some are hoarders! Looking into that space I call my mind, I am horrified at the clutter and junk there. Where do I even start? The golden rule to decluttering is to take one room at a time and this works for your mind as well. Look at one unwanted thing, spend some time there, make peace and let it go. This process requires looking at the ‘hard stuff’ but moving on always requires working with something we don’t want to but in the long run we will be thankful that we did. It is also the only way to let go, make room for the ‘new’ in your life. I have to remind myself of that as well. If you don’t know where to start, here are some tips.
8 Ways To Declutter Your Mind:
Accept what is.
Be kind to yourself.
Release your guilt and fears.
Let go of control.
Visualize what’s important to you.
Focus on your life-force energy.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable.
Find what doesn’t serve or interest you and let it go.
HAVE AN AMAZING DAY!
