STOP OBSESSING, LET GO AND MOVE ON! Exactly what I would tell my younger self now since I know better and I am older and wiser. At least, I hope so!
I loved to obsess about anything and everything. It made my life difficult and didn’t bring me much peace or actual living for that matter. Some days I would spend obsessing about nothing at all. Believe me, it is possible.
Much time would be spent on nothing much, nothing of importance. Time that could have been spent on things that mattered, I left it on the backburner because I was too busy obsessing. I still have a tendency to do that but not to the extent I did when I was younger.
Yes, I am older and wiser but I still have a lot to learn.
What’s one thing you know now that would have saved your younger self a lot of pain?
This is an old saying that holds more than a modicum of truth within its confines. When the good times are there, we forget about impermanency and quite often we think that it is going to last forever and it doesn’t always go that way. When the bad times come around, we think it is going to stay until it turns tail and leaves the same way it came in. Nothing lasts forever and understanding this concept is what this saying is about. This well-known adage reflects on the temporary nature of the human condition.
“Two years ago you had problems you don’t even remember. But it seemed like such a big deal at the time, didn’t it? And yet – here you are. This, too, shall pass.” Unknown
I don’t recall when but I’ve been through the cycle of thinking it was a big deal at the time and like that quote, it vanished without a trace.
It takes different forms. Sometimes love moves in and you think forever is in the cards but sometimes that “forever” is just in the imagination. It was never meant to last. Sometimes, one door closes and you wait for that door to open back up but it stays shut and in its place another one opens but not before you learn what pain is about. It comes when you least expect it and it leaves when it sees fit. Sometimes life is on an even keel or so it seems until it turns the tables on you and you are faced with turmoil and chaos.
This too shall pass? Absolutely. It always does if you wait long enough and you give it time.
“Change is never painful. Only resistance to change is painful.” Buddha
Don’t I know it! I hate change but it arrives whether I want it to or not. I am learning to let go of resistance but it will take time.
This next one I love!
“This too shall pass…
It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.” Unknown
I’ve never had one of those but I’ve heard it’s painful. Too painful!
“Breathe darling. This is just a chapter. It’s not your whole story.” S. G. Lourie
Good one to remember when a painful episode decides to pay you a visit. It’s not the whole chapter and there’s more to the story so let it unfold as it will if you allow it.
This last one I like a whole lot!
This too shall pass….
“The heaviness. The confusion. The days that feel like they’ll never ease. Nothing stays the same forever, not the pain, not the doubt, not the storms in your head. You’ve made it through hard seasons before, even when you thought you wouldn’t. Hold on. Keep going. What you’re feeling right now isn’t the end of the story, it’s just a chapter.” Unknown
I know this all too well, however, this too shall pass is the last thing on my mind when things go down south but slowly and surely it is taking form and HOLDING so that the next time something unsavory happens I will remember,
As far as the weirdest movie I’ve ever watched, nothing comes to mind. I’ve watched a lot of movies but nothing weird or I just don’t remember!
If a movie even reeks of weirdness at first glance, it is a no go for me. I don’t give it the time of day and neither do I waste my time on it. I move on and there are plenty of movies out there without having to sit through a “weird” one.
“Every day is a new beginning. Take a deep breath, smile, and start again.” Unknown
I’m sitting in the office area and looking out the window. It’s a brand new day and I’m thankful and grateful. There is a storm raging outside, the weather has turned and fall is moving in, not slowly but as quickly as it can. The wind is blowing and the bamboo fronds in the neighbor’s garden are bending under the weight of gale force winds but its resilience to spring back is amazing.
Sometimes we can take lessons from nature. We too are resilient and no matter how life tries to bend or to break us, like the bamboo we too can spring back to life when the storm has settled and move on from there. It is not the end of the world, it is, if we tend to think it is.
“With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.” Eleanor Roosevelt
There is new strength coursing through me today. I went through major surgery on Monday and came out of it with little to show for it. The pain was nowhere to be found except for a little discomfort I feel just fine. I’ve made up my mind to embrace life and to open a brand new chapter. The pages are empty but I plan to write in them pretty soon. I have a plan in mind and it will be put into practice once my first week of recuperation is over.
I hope my body heals quickly. It is already showing signs that it is on exactly that path. I did the wash today, no big deal but going down to the cellar was but I did it with no problems. I’ve been walking up and down the stairs and cleaning up as well. The cat sitter said, “You are one fit person!” Well, I don’t want to jinx it but I would like to think that there is another hand at play in all of this.
“Every sunrise is a reminder that yesterday doesn’t have the final word. You can begin again, make a new choice, and write a better chapter. Your story is still being written.” Unknown
Exactly right! Yesterday doesn’t have the final say and you are fully capable of writing another chapter, one with a better ending.
“Every morning starts a new page in your story. Make it a great one today.” Unknown
There is not much to tell. It is nothing fantastic or even exciting. I get up like everyone else. A slow start dragging myself out of bed, sometimes I stay a little longer cuddling with my little darling, (Chachi, the cat) feeling his warm body next to mine. The soft purring lets me know that I have love by my side and cuddling gives me energy and a positive mindset to face a new day.
Most days, we head on downstairs together. First,it’s a glance out the window but now that a new season has set in, it is dark as night out there with nothing to see. Soon, the time change will arrive and it will be light again in the mornings but the days will be shorter. Then I get my breakfast ready, sip on my first cup of coffee, and plant kisses on the little brat’s head.
Then it is breakfast time. After that, I listen to the news and move on from there. Sometimes, a 10 minute meditation, or at times a short workout before I get the day started. I have a journal so I jot down stuff as to how I’m doing and what I plan to achieve or do today.
That’s about it. This routine helps to keep me grounded and it also helps to move me forward with positivity and of course with gratitude as well. Nothing spectacular but it gets me going and that is the important part.
