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Looking back at my 20-year-old self, I would tell her to stop overthinking, let go of fear, and to live life to the fullest.

Overthinking has always been a problem. I overthink everything! Something shows up on my radar and there I go! I grab it, mull over it, refuse to let it go, and spend days, months or even longer on it. I think that spending time with whatever it is helps the problem to dissipate or to make it less than what it is and that is not the case. I would tell my 20-year-old self to TAKE IT EASY! Not everything needs your undivided attention and sometimes it is better to let it go or to leave it where it is and to move on.

Fear has always been a constant companion so I would tell her that she doesn’t have to be fearful of everything. Fear stops you from achieving a lot of things and makes your life a miserable existence. It’s okay to be fearful but not all the time. It’s alright to be careful, to be cautious, and to know what could go wrong BUT let go or rather stop letting fear take the reins and take you for a ride!

Living life to the fullest is not easy and if you have “overthinking” and “fear” directing the way, it is next to impossible to do. Let go of the aforementioned two and you might just have a chance at living a life that is fulfilling, fun, and filled with whatever you want to achieve.

I was naive at 20 and it took a long time for me to find my way. Having my head in the clouds didn’t help either. Know what you want, aim for it, and know that life is short so do the best you can. Dream but not all the time and as far as love, do not chase! It will show up when the time is right. Be patient!

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What is something you wish you could tell your 20-year-old self?

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Again, the wrong person to ask! My boundaries are hard to overcome and if you make it through the imaginary moat, the chains around my heart, and you know where, I applaud you.

The thing is I’ve come up with numerous boundaries and they are of the impossible kind. Sometimes I think that I have them there to protect the broken heart that needs saving from further damage! At other times, I come up with them on a whim, whatever floats my boat at the time.

The first one is DON’T TOUCH! I don’t like unnecessary touching especially on first dates, second dates, or however long it takes. Get the picture? I don’t give out the milk for free so I end up with complicated relationships. The “Don’t Touch” policy doesn’t set too well with men.

Along with that don’t ask me why I don’t have a spark in my eyes when I look at you. It’ll show up if and when the time is right. Here again, it may be never! I guess that’s why I’m still single and looking for the right guy! He has decided to go the other direction where things are easier!

Cheaters, liars, and the like can take a hike! I don’t play around where these guys are concerned. The minute I find out, I put them out of their misery. Stay away from these losers. No point wasting time on them because sooner or later the real person shows up. It never fails. Pay attention to what is shown and listen to your intuition. It has your best interests at heart.

Stay away from men who are all about themselves. These are the ones who look in the mirror and see someone different! Not the faded image of themselves but in that imaginary mirror, they come across as 007! The problem is they take that image into the world and treat women like they don’t matter. Know your self-worth and send them on their way to play with another mirror!

Healthy boundaries are necessary for healthy relationships. Both people should feel free to express themselves without feeling hemmed in. Each other’s personal space should be respected and respectful interactions are a must. These boundaries help to create trust, well-being, and builds meaningful connections.

Easy enough? So where is the guy I’m looking for? He’ll show up when the time is right.

Fingers and toes crossed.

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Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships.

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Will humans ever colonize Mars? A good question to ask Elon Musk! The man who has delusions of grandeur as far as the red planet is concerned but then again, the newly baked trillionaire might just do it. He says he is deeply committed to colonizing Mars and making humanity a multi-planetary species. It is an aspirational view or it could be that he needs more room for his expanding family!

The man or rather the baby making machine has fathered 14 biological children with four different mothers. Where does he get the time with all the ventures he has got going? Good question but moving on…..

Coming back to the question at hand, I don’t know if we ever will and I don’t really care. I have enough trouble making it on Earth! If we ever do what will life be like there or actually look like? Hmm…..no aliens I hope! No unknown creatures and NO having to do battle every day to survive! I hope it will be peaceful and serene and if we wanted to return back to planet Earth, it will be a breeze. Just hop into an interplanetary spaceflight that zips you around from one place to another!

That was tiring! Not the question itself but the thought of Elon breeding like there was no tomorrow!

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Do you think humans will ever colonize Mars? What would life there actually look like?

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I must say that they have been doing a fantastic job with these memes. Here is one that speaks to the heart of the matter! I added another one for good measure! There is a saying that goes like this, “All’s fair in love and war.” With that in mind, enjoy. I’ll say they are doing a great job at getting where it hurts!

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What’s your favorite meme?

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Again I will turn to Singapore where filial piety takes centerstage where the elderly are concerned. The young are taught at an early age to respect their elders and it is instilled in them so much so that filial piety plays an important role in the country’s makeup. This concept remains an important pillar of family cohesion in Singapore.

Singapore has one of the world’s fastest-aging populations and much care is taken to ensure that eldercare is affordable. The government provides retirement schemes and eldercare subsidies that help to lessen the burden on adult children. It is also one of the few countries that legally enforces elder care.

What is filial piety? It is founded on ethical and social virtues and it entails “deep respect, obedience, and care for one’s parents, elders, and ancestors.” I wish that every culture embraced this policy or care for their elders. However, this is not the case

Caring for the elderly, the sick, and people who don’t have any other options should be a priority so that they can die in peace, with decency, and with the respect they deserve.

Singapore is doing a pretty good job with that and other countries would do well to adopt such a system.

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What’s a cultural tradition from another country that you wish existed in yours?

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I’ve lived on three continents and I know that the biggest mistakes people make when visiting another country is to assume that they can do whatever they want and get away with it.

Let’s take Singapore for example. It is a country that abides by rules and regulations. Knowing the rules and what not to do is a must if you want to visit this country. There is a fine for almost everything. No chewing gum on public transportation, no throwing litter on the streets, no crossing the streets anywhere you want and so on and so forth.

Singapore is called the roaring lion of Asia and it must have done some things right to get that title. “It roars as a global economic, financial, and technological powerhouse, punching far above its geographical size.” It is also a friendly city where everyone practices whatever religion they want to, get along with everyone else, and they take the cleanliness is next to godliness proverb to heart. It is very clean and even though it is a concrete jungle, it doesn’t seem that way because greenery is placed strategically to give it the name, “The Garden City.”

Some call it the big brother is watching city. Probably, but if you follow the rules and what is asked of you, you will have a pleasant visit or stay. Break them and you will have the full force of the law upon you and it will not be a pleasant experience as they use the cane to administer punishment and it is more than an OUCH!

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What are the biggest mistakes people make when visiting your country?

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I love this song by Bruno Mars. My friend, the one who passed away, was a good dancer. He had the “Moves like Jagger” moves! However, he danced better than Jagger and whenever this song came on, he took off dancing around the room like nobody was watching! I still see him in my mind’s eye. It has a catchy beat and nobody does it like Bruno Mars! It’s a song that never fails to put me in a good mood when I hear it.

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What’s a song that always puts you in a good mood?

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What is it? It is the fear of being afraid. In other words, it is the fear of fear. Even though I’ve had a fear of developing fears or phobias, it never stopped them from finding me and me walking in like sheep to the slaughter! You name it, I’ve had them or have them!

The fear of a broken heart was one of my biggest fears and no matter how hard I tried, it always found me. The fear of the unknown was another. I always wanted to know the outcome before it happened and we know that life doesn’t work that way. It loves surprises and it gave me plenty of those! The fear of walking into a room full of strangers was another. However, I’ve overcome that fear. I do it like a pro now. How did I overcome that fear? I had to work on my self-esteem and every time someone gave me a compliment, I learned to accept it with grace instead of deflecting it as I usually do. Slowly, but surely I saw “me” with different eyes. I was fully capable of achieving anything if I put my mind to it and it worked!

The fear of creepy crawlies was another fear, of closed spaces yet another, and the fear of ghosts. It came from living in Asia and having experienced things that go bump in the night. Should I go on? I’ve got plenty more but I’ll stop right here. Enough don’t you think?

All I can say is that I’ve come a long ways from letting everything scare me. I’m at a place in my life where I live alone, take care of things on my own, and I’m learning to LOVE it, much more than I should. What about the fear? I’ve shown some fears the door and others are on their way out. Just a matter of time before that happens.

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What’s a fear you’ve overcome — and how did you do it?

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I used to be an introvert. It wasn’t that I was a wallflower, far from it but no matter how often I got told that I was more than enough something within just didn’t add up. It took a long time to come out of that shell.

How did I do it? I am now a self-assured and a very confident person. It took years to build that confidence up. Brick by brick? Not quite but at times it seemed that way. I had to learn this one lesson. I am ENOUGH as I am. Once that sunk in, I put into practice all the other pieces that were needed to get me on my way. Most of our insecurities arise from what people think of us. In other words, we let others dictate how we see ourselves.

If someone makes you feel smaller than you are, if they try to cut you down to size, and you accept their feedback or rather their negativity as the truth, then it is a downward spiral. Learn this. What they think of you is their business, not yours. There is a lot of negativity out there and if you let it, it will bring you down to their level. If you’re someone who is vulnerable and lacking self-confidence, it finds its mark and sinks you deeper.

I don’t let how someone perceives me to dictate how I live my life. The truth is, I feel 10 feet tall on the inside even if I’m a petite person on the outside. I don’t look for positive strokes from the outside, it is an inside job where I’m concerned. Holding my head up high when I walk into a room nowadays is easy to do compared to times past. If someone decides to take me down a notch, it never lands because I know I am ENOUGH as I am.

Self-confidence is an inside job. Work on you, build yourself up, walk with your head held high and soon you’ll be walking in a bubble of self-confidence! It takes practice, it takes a certain mindset, and it takes YOU! No one else is going to do it for you. Make up your mind and go for it! You’ve got nothing to lose.

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What’s the best way to build self-confidence?

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