I must say that they have been doing a fantastic job with these memes. Here is one that speaks to the heart of the matter! I added another one for good measure! There is a saying that goes like this, “All’s fair in love and war.” With that in mind, enjoy. I’ll say they are doing a great job at getting where it hurts!
Month: June 2026
Lessons I’ve Learned (1)
Last year, I started out on this journey of self-discovery looking for better ways to deal with emotional ups and downs, getting myself back on track, and taking the path unknown. It has been a long journey and I’ve made my mistakes along the way and I knew I would. I’ve fallen and picked myself back up and moved on trying not to look back at closed doors or staying there for too long. Along the way, I had to put this into practice.
“The past is where you learned the lesson. The future is where you apply the lesson, don’t give up in the middle.” Unknown
Honestly, I wanted to give up many times when the going got tough. At times, I thought I didn’t have the courage or the energy to keep moving forward. The finish line was somewhere in the distance and I wondered if I would ever see it. However, I had to have faith and to believe that as long as I kept moving forward, it would show up sooner or later.
“Sometimes life has to turn you upside down, so you can learn how to live more right side up.” Unknown
I am learning that not everything is going to break me. Even though it seems that way at times. Stepping back and seeing it for what it is usually brings more clarity to the whole picture. Taking a deep breath before I tackle the problem has helped me to focus on the problem at hand and not on things I make up in my head. I have a tendency to blow things up making them seem harder than they are. I have learned that problems crop up, it is a part of life. Learning to deal with them is needed and doing it with a clear head, courage, and focus has helped me to overcome and to solve problems as they show up.
“I’ve learned 3 lessons this year, to leave people where they are at, accept situations for what they are and that not every action needs a reaction.” Unknown
That last part was and is the hardest for me. I think or rather believe that every action needs a reaction. I am learning that sometimes that action could be no reaction at all. It speaks more than a thousand words could say and leaving it where it belongs, somewhere in the past is action enough.
It has helped to calm my soul, to move on without looking back, and to accept it for what it is. A problem that can’t be solved and so I LET IT BE.
I am learning but I’ve got a long ways to go.
Have an amazing day.
Filial Piety
Again I will turn to Singapore where filial piety takes centerstage where the elderly are concerned. The young are taught at an early age to respect their elders and it is instilled in them so much so that filial piety plays an important role in the country’s makeup. This concept remains an important pillar of family cohesion in Singapore.
Singapore has one of the world’s fastest-aging populations and much care is taken to ensure that eldercare is affordable. The government provides retirement schemes and eldercare subsidies that help to lessen the burden on adult children. It is also one of the few countries that legally enforces elder care.
What is filial piety? It is founded on ethical and social virtues and it entails “deep respect, obedience, and care for one’s parents, elders, and ancestors.” I wish that every culture embraced this policy or care for their elders. However, this is not the case
Caring for the elderly, the sick, and people who don’t have any other options should be a priority so that they can die in peace, with decency, and with the respect they deserve.
Singapore is doing a pretty good job with that and other countries would do well to adopt such a system.
Daily writing prompt
What’s a cultural tradition from another country that you wish existed in yours?
Biggest Mistakes
I’ve lived on three continents and I know that the biggest mistakes people make when visiting another country is to assume that they can do whatever they want and get away with it.
Let’s take Singapore for example. It is a country that abides by rules and regulations. Knowing the rules and what not to do is a must if you want to visit this country. There is a fine for almost everything. No chewing gum on public transportation, no throwing litter on the streets, no crossing the streets anywhere you want and so on and so forth.
Singapore is called the roaring lion of Asia and it must have done some things right to get that title. “It roars as a global economic, financial, and technological powerhouse, punching far above its geographical size.” It is also a friendly city where everyone practices whatever religion they want to, get along with everyone else, and they take the cleanliness is next to godliness proverb to heart. It is very clean and even though it is a concrete jungle, it doesn’t seem that way because greenery is placed strategically to give it the name, “The Garden City.”
Some call it the big brother is watching city. Probably, but if you follow the rules and what is asked of you, you will have a pleasant visit or stay. Break them and you will have the full force of the law upon you and it will not be a pleasant experience as they use the cane to administer punishment and it is more than an OUCH!
Daily writing prompt
What are the biggest mistakes people make when visiting your country?
Uptown Funk
I love this song by Bruno Mars. My friend, the one who passed away, was a good dancer. He had the “Moves like Jagger” moves! However, he danced better than Jagger and whenever this song came on, he took off dancing around the room like nobody was watching! I still see him in my mind’s eye. It has a catchy beat and nobody does it like Bruno Mars! It’s a song that never fails to put me in a good mood when I hear it.
Phobophobia
What is it? It is the fear of being afraid. In other words, it is the fear of fear. Even though I’ve had a fear of developing fears or phobias, it never stopped them from finding me and me walking in like sheep to the slaughter! You name it, I’ve had them or have them!
The fear of a broken heart was one of my biggest fears and no matter how hard I tried, it always found me. The fear of the unknown was another. I always wanted to know the outcome before it happened and we know that life doesn’t work that way. It loves surprises and it gave me plenty of those! The fear of walking into a room full of strangers was another. However, I’ve overcome that fear. I do it like a pro now. How did I overcome that fear? I had to work on my self-esteem and every time someone gave me a compliment, I learned to accept it with grace instead of deflecting it as I usually do. Slowly, but surely I saw “me” with different eyes. I was fully capable of achieving anything if I put my mind to it and it worked!
The fear of creepy crawlies was another fear, of closed spaces yet another, and the fear of ghosts. It came from living in Asia and having experienced things that go bump in the night. Should I go on? I’ve got plenty more but I’ll stop right here. Enough don’t you think?
All I can say is that I’ve come a long ways from letting everything scare me. I’m at a place in my life where I live alone, take care of things on my own, and I’m learning to LOVE it, much more than I should. What about the fear? I’ve shown some fears the door and others are on their way out. Just a matter of time before that happens.
Building Self-Confidence
I used to be an introvert. It wasn’t that I was a wallflower, far from it but no matter how often I got told that I was more than enough something within just didn’t add up. It took a long time to come out of that shell.
How did I do it? I am now a self-assured and a very confident person. It took years to build that confidence up. Brick by brick? Not quite but at times it seemed that way. I had to learn this one lesson. I am ENOUGH as I am. Once that sunk in, I put into practice all the other pieces that were needed to get me on my way. Most of our insecurities arise from what people think of us. In other words, we let others dictate how we see ourselves.
If someone makes you feel smaller than you are, if they try to cut you down to size, and you accept their feedback or rather their negativity as the truth, then it is a downward spiral. Learn this. What they think of you is their business, not yours. There is a lot of negativity out there and if you let it, it will bring you down to their level. If you’re someone who is vulnerable and lacking self-confidence, it finds its mark and sinks you deeper.
I don’t let how someone perceives me to dictate how I live my life. The truth is, I feel 10 feet tall on the inside even if I’m a petite person on the outside. I don’t look for positive strokes from the outside, it is an inside job where I’m concerned. Holding my head up high when I walk into a room nowadays is easy to do compared to times past. If someone decides to take me down a notch, it never lands because I know I am ENOUGH as I am.
Self-confidence is an inside job. Work on you, build yourself up, walk with your head held high and soon you’ll be walking in a bubble of self-confidence! It takes practice, it takes a certain mindset, and it takes YOU! No one else is going to do it for you. Make up your mind and go for it! You’ve got nothing to lose.
LOL!
This one got more than a chuckle out of me!
An elderly Florida lady did her shopping and upon returning to her car, found four males in the act of leaving with her vehicle. She dropped her shopping bags and drew her handgun, proceeding to scream at the top of her lungs,
“I have a gun, and I know how to use it! Get out of the car – NOW!”
The four men didn’t wait for a second threat. They got out and ran like mad. The lady, somewhat shaken, then proceeded to load her shopping bags into the back of the car and got into the driver’s seat. She was so shaken that she could not get her key into the ignition. She tried and tried, and then she realized why. It was for the same reason she had wondered why there was a football, a Frisbee, and two 12-packs of beer in the front seat.
A few minutes later, she found her own car parked four or five spaces farther down. She loaded her bags into her own car and drove to the police station to report her mistake. The Sergeant to whom she told the story couldn’t stop laughing! He pointed to the other end of the counter, where four pale men were reporting a carjacking by a mad, elderly woman described as white, less than five feet tall, glasses, curly white hair, and carrying a large handgun.
No charges were filed.
Moral of the story? If you’re having a senior moment…make it memorable!
credit: Nadeem Alipur
Building Loyal Subscribers
This is the wrong question to ask me. I don’t spend a lot of time online like I used to and usually I post my articles and leave it at that. Building loyal subscribers probably takes lots of time and effort to get it going. These days my writing is not about getting subscribers but getting something out that speaks to the heart, helps someone out there, and helps me to vent my frustrations!
I have about 285 subscribers. How I got them I don’t know! However, I’m thankful for the people who have subscribed and think that what I put out there is worth reading. Thank you.
As to your question, I think to build loyal subscribers you’ve got to spend loads of time online, searching for new people, liking their posts, and HOPING that they like yours and subscribe!
The Three Update!
I haven’t written much lately because I’ve been up to my neck with the three that take up my time and my energy!
Shiro, Galli, and Chachi are a handful. They run the roost and although Chachi, my guy, started out as the boss, he has turned it over to the other two. He is happy spending his days under the stairwell and sleeping his day away. Shiro, the white Persian is the ma’am and she dictates how everything goes. Galli, the long-haired British cat, is the observer and the thinker.
Together, they are a team. A brother and sister twosome. They look out for each other, they are very close and it shows. Unfortunately, this doesn’t set too well with Chachi, the little macho. Shiro has shown Chachi who wears the pants around here and even though he hates it, he has given up and keeps out of her way. She, Shiro, spends most of her time in my bedroom pretending to be asleep but in actuality she is watching everything I do! She loves it when I spray some scent on her. She is a GIRL and there is no mistaking it. Galli is the food guy. He waits around and whenever I head to the kitchen, he is right behind me with the Oliver Twist line, “Please, sir, I want some more.” It was driven by unbearable hunger but in Galli’s case, it doesn’t matter if he is hungry or not, he just wants food!
Lately, I’ve been observing the two and it is amazing how they interact with each other. Every time Shiro meows, Galli comes running to see what is going on. He is her knight in shining armor. This morning, she wasn’t feeling too well so when she finally got up and went to get some food, Galli came walking up to her and gave her a small kiss on her cheek and she returned it. I wanted to gather the little guy in my arms and to smother him with kisses! He is a sweetheart.
They will be gone in a month’s time and I must say, I will miss them. I won’t miss the work and the early morning meowing but I will miss having them around. I bet Chachi will too.
I am learning that I LOVE cats! They are beautiful creatures and there is much you can learn from them if you open your mind to them.
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