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Two Old Men

Both men are old, Biden is 81 and Trump is 77 years old. Both are suffering from cognitive decline in one form or another but if you listen to Fox News, it is Biden who is in his geriatric years. Both are battling to take the reins of the highest office in the land, one is currently there and wanting another four years whereas the other is giving his all to regain control of the White House which he lost and still hasn’t accepted cognitively that it was won legitimately and with no election interference. We look on in dismay or more specifically in terror as the election year moves on at a glacial pace as both men show us in more ways than one that neither one of them is the best choice and we need younger and more vibrant personalities to fill that space at the top of the tier.

Nonetheless, we are smack dub and in the middle of a geriatric year of elections. It has been an eye-opener so far and promises much more in the form of why “two old men” should not run for the highest office in the land.

Let’s look at some of Mr. Trump’s gaffes through the years.

His most famous was the word, “Covfefe.” POTUS tweeted this in May 2017, “Despite the constant negative press covfefe,” and the world sat up and took notice. Not because it was something prolific but because the word does not exist. There was a mad dash to unscramble what it meant and we later found out that it was a mistake and it was meant to be, “coverage.” Much ado about nothing indeed!

Then there was the time when Trump delivered a speech marking the 9/11 attacks and it went like this:

“I wrote this out, and it’s very close to my heart, because I was down there and I watched our police and our firemen down at 7/11, down at World Trade Center right after it came down.” He meant 9/11.

More recently, he confused Nikki Haley with Nancy Pelosi and praised Hungary’s Prime Minister Viktor Orban as “the leader of Turkey.” Shades of Biden?

Another faux pas which points to Mr. Trump’s state of mind is his September 15 speech in Washington when he warned, “that America was on the verge of World War II,” which ended in 1945.

Then on 14 September, Mr. Trump went on to say in his no nonsense and kingly fashion at a rally in South Carolina, “I’ve been saying, look, if they’re not going to pay, we’re not going to protect, OK?” And then he went on to say that he would encourage Russia to attack Nato members he deemed financially delinquent. If that doesn’t speak to his mental state, I don’t know what does!

After a NY judge ruled Thursday that jury selection will begin on March 25 with no delays in the hush money trial, Trump again called it an election interference ploy saying that he is stuck in court instead of being on the campaign trail which is all a lie. He does not need to sit in court day in and day out. His words were, “I’m honored to sit here day after day on something that everybody says the greatest legal scholars say it’s not even a crime.” The comment “smacked of entitlement to being above the law, which prosecutors and political opponents have long accused Trump of harboring.”

According to Ian Hughes, “Politicians who live in an angry narcissistic fog pose a clear threat to democracy and peace, and Donald Trump is a classic illustration of what this means in practice.” Not only that, “People like Trump with narcissistic personality disorder are driven to live out their lives by damaging others and pursuing their grandiose destructive dreams because they are psychologically incapable of coming to terms with the ‘fire and fury’ that lie within. Add to that the advancing years and you’ve got something to contend with.

Both men have had their share of geriatric moments but Mr. Trump is ahead in that respect. Can we trust either one of them to take up the reins of the highest office in the land? Whoever takes office should have a clear head, a steady hand and an unwavering propensity to lead in the right direction. The way I see it, Biden comes off looking like a spring chicken when compared to Trump. While “stupidity” reigns supreme in Trump’s world, Biden is calm, collected and presidential, faux pas aside. Moreover, he is a gentler version of what the White House needs when compared to the “know-nothing,” “unhinged, “crass,” and “liar” Trump!

Milestones

“Remember to celebrate milestones as you prepare for the road ahead.” Nelson Mandela

A milestone is defined as “a significant event in your life.” It could be another birthday, a special day in your life, a marriage, an anniversary, the birth of a baby or even a new chapter in your life. It is auspicious and it should not be taken lightly because milestones show us where we stand and how we are progressing through this journey called life.

Sometimes you have to work hard to arrive at that milestone and at other times you have no control over it. It arrives as scheduled and you have no say in the matter. Take birthdays for example, it has nothing to do with how you get there but each year it arrives without fail and you are left staring at a new year ahead with the old one behind you. You can choose to rejoice, you can moan or you can totally ignore it as a friend of mine does each year. It is a more than a chore for him. Whatever the case may be, you’ve reached another milestone and life goes on from there.

“Today is a milestone, it tells you how far you’ve come. Keep learning, keep trying, keep accomplishing and keep venturing on through your journey.” Unknown

What are the important milestones in your life?

In mine it was the first time a boy asked me out on a date and I got my first kiss under the stars. It was beautiful and filled with innocence and I learned that “boys” found me attractive and that put a smile on my face. I had ventured out of my tom-boyish days and was blossoming into a young woman with the world at my feet. It was a wonderful feeling.

The next milestone was when I got my first paycheck. It was a paltry sum but I’ll never forget that feeling of walking on air that it gave me. More than that, I knew that I was on my way to bigger and better things!

Getting married was an important milestone. I was finally an adult and I had a life of my own. Even though the marriage broke up many years later, it taught me that I am fully capable of dealing with whatever life throws my way.

The birth of my son was a wonderful milestone. I felt like I had come full circle and it taught me that as a parent I had responsibilities and there were lessons to teach and learn without a playbook.

Divorce was a milestone I would rather forget. Hurt, pain, a waterfall of tears and holding on were the terrible lessons of walking away from a love that didn’t quite work out and it was one of the hardest things I had to do. It taught me that life was far from over and I had to move on from where I was and look towards the uncertain future and I am still learning to do that.

Losing someone close to me was a horrific milestone. Actually there were several of those. First response was, “I can’t deal with this!” I did find out that I was fully capable of dealing with this and much much more. Just when you think you can’t, life shows you that YOU CAN. The strength within is unbeatable and it was those times that strength reached out and showed me a better way. It too was a milestone to be treasured.

Milestones are important markers of life. Some are wonderful, some we would rather forget but no matter what, milestones keep showing up and they will keep doing so because it is a part of life. They are there to show us our development as individuals, how far we have come, where we have to go to complete our journey and what we have to do to get there. Enjoy them, accept them, learn from them and be grateful for all of them.

“Be thankful for all of the small victories as you work toward large milestones as it’s not the endgame that matters most but how you got to where you are.” Unknown

And

What a beautiful thing it is to be able to stand tall and say, “I fell apart, and I survived.” Unknown

The Bully

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“Bullying is the result of an unequal power dynamic – the strong attacking the weak.” Maria Konnikova

Trump is toxic, he is dangerous and he is a bully through and through. He has used the bully pulpit to his advantage and used his power to belittle those he deems not worthy of compassion or kindness. The man is ruthless when it comes to spewing insults. His motto is, “Talk first, think later,” and this approach has got him into hot water more than once. It seems his toxic nature is part and parcel of his makeup, character wise I mean. Furthermore, he is sorely lacking in how a President should present himself because everything comes down to one thing and that is himself. It is not about the people but about loud-mouthed, asinine Trump and that is why he goes from one gaffe to the next all the while with that Cheshire cat grin plastered on his face.

According to James Barber, who published a well-known study on presidential character, a good President should have the following leadership qualities:

A strong vision for the country’s future.

An ability to put their own times in the perspective of history.

Effective communication skills.

The courage to make unpopular decisions.

Crisis management skills.

Character and integrity.

Wise appointments.

An ability to work with Congress.

Furthermore, he added that Presidents must wear many hats and they “must somehow symbolize what American citizens believe to be the essence of their country. They must represent what is valued now and in the past. But even more importantly, they embody the direction of America’s future.”

Do you see Trump doing any or all of the above? He is first and foremost a playground bully who marches to his own drumbeat and that fact alone makes him more than dangerous. One thing he is good at is name-calling and he does it with such prowess that it is mind boggling. From “Crooked Hillary,” to “Pocohontas,” for Elizabeth Warren, to “Shifty Schiff,” for Adam Schiff and “Sleepy Biden,” for Biden but that is just touching the tip of the iceberg. Mr. Trump does not hold back when it comes to throwing punches of the unsavory kind. He takes it all in stride and moves on like the master manipulator he is.

He is single-handedly changing the characteristics of a President but not for the better. ”From referencing a television host’s menstrual cycle to using vulgar phrases to describe opponents to his encouragement of violence at rallies, Trump’s insults have known no bounds and have been a dominant storyline of the campaign,” and continue to be so even today. Other candidates have used insults and mud-slinging but not to the extend that “Orange Jesus” has. ”His speeches have crossed lines, pushed fact checkers to their limits and incited backlash – all the while further stoking the passions of his most ardent supporters.” Just look at his recent debacle where he said he would “encourage” Russia to attack any NATO country that does not contribute 2% of its GDP to the alliance’s coffers. It was a reckless threat which has contributed to fierce backlash in Europe. Does he care? What do you think?

Add to that his constant posturing like a peacock, running his mouth like a loose faucet and his GOD complex mentality and you’ve got a bully at his very best alas to the detriment of the country. Biden’s mental acuity is concerning but Trump’s playground antics and all out temper tantrums are far more terrifying if you ask me.

The Trojan Horse

“In Greek mythology, the Trojan Horse was a wooden horse said to have been used by the Greeks during the Trojan War to enter the city of Troy and win the war.”

In today’s symbolism, it could also mean, “an innocuous appearing container for hiding something within to get past defenses or some other obstacle. Trojan horses can be used for both good and evil.”

That said, the news media is ripe with visions of sugar plums dancing in their heads. Can it be, would she do it? Would she be willing to give up her more than cushy life of “just being” and take up the reins as the first female African-American president of the USA? Would she even want to try let alone put up with all that her husband, the 44th President of the United States put up with to let his light shine through the hazy, blurred and cruel world of politics where racism played a bigger than life part in his presidency.

Your mission should you choose to accept it is to knock the orange Cheshire cat off his throne of “I’ve got it in the pocket grin,” and do the world a HUGE and GREAT favor! Four more years of “all about me” politics is not my cup of tea and neither is it for all of us with half a brain I might add!

Trump’s problem might just turn out to be the no immunity ruling that Washington DC handed out not too recently. It was a major setback for “orange Jesus.” It reads like this:

“We cannot accept former President Trump’s claim that a president has unbounded authority to commit crimes that would neutralize the most fundamental check on executive power – the recognition and implementation of election results.” Furthermore, it added, “For the purpose of this criminal case, former President Trump has become citizen Trump, with all of the defences of any other criminal defendant.” That aside, Trump is still waiting on the Supreme Court ruling as to whether he violated an article of the 14th Amendment to the US Constitution and that violation could mean him being barred from running for office. Add to that the four criminal indictments and there is HOPE!

If Biden is lacking in cognitive skills, than Trump is lacking in morality, cognitive skills and has a severe lack of knowing what holding the highest office in the nation means. It is NOT all about him. Furthermore, we do not need a “dumpster fire” in the White House! Coming back to Michelle Obama. The lady has proved herself to be a worthy opponent. A graduate of Princeton University and Harvard Law School, she has more smarts in one little finger compared to Trump who can’t even keep a conversation going without resorting to monosyllabic words and even than just a few words that espouse him in a favorable light or so he thinks! At 60, she is much younger than “Orange Jesus” and could run circles around him in the Presidential debate. Her cognitive skills are in top form and she has her faculties well-placed around her. If all that is not enough, the lady has hutzpah, has a commanding presence about her, oozes class and dignity and last but not least, she has an ace in the hole. It will be the man standing in the shadows pushing her on to victory and that folks is a major plus.

Of course, the Trojan Horse symbolism doesn’t quite fit here because the cat has been let out of the bag or rather it is in the works. Who cares? My money is on her!

Harmony Montgomery

This is a heart wrenching case and one of pure evil. Harmony Montgomery, an innocent 5-year-old went missing in 2019 but it took years before she was reported missing.

Her father, 33-year-old, Adam Montgomery was indicted on murder charges over her disappearance but her body has never been found. The details that emerged of her life with her biological father, Adam, was harrowing, brutal and the little girl endured years of abuse.

It is believed that Harmony was killed on or around December 2019. After having been evicted from their home on November 27, the family, Adam, his wife Kayla, and their two sons and Harmony lived in their car, a silver 2010 Chrysler Sebring. Both Adam and Kayla, his wife, have criminal records. However, the brutality that ensued against the 5-year-old is mind-boggling and hard to comprehend. The child was struck many times in the face by Adam and endured unspeakable abuse as time went on. Child welfare services stepped in but they turned a blind eye to signs of abuse on the child. Even though the family was, “identified as high risk of repeat child welfare system involvement,” they wrote, “the children appeared happy and healthy,” in their report. Their last visit was on October 1, 2019.

The jury trial began on February 6, 2024 in Hillsborough County, Manchester and Adam Montgomery is now claiming that, “Kayla Montgomery was the last person to see Harmony alive and knows how Harmony died.” For her part, Kayla, the stepmother, is claiming that Harmony died after repeated blows to her head by her father, Adam, because she had committed the cardinal sin of being incontinent in the car. After the attack which was brutal to say the least, the defendant pulled into a Burger King and ordered food and ate it nonchalantly without showing any concern for the little girl in the back seat of his car. To make matters worse or even more horrific, he toted the dead body in a duffle bag, tied up in trash bags all over Manchester for months to come.

Lock him up or rather lock them both up and throw away the keys, you say? It might just come to that but for now the trial is ongoing and more and more horrid details are coming to light. For instance, Adam said, “he placed Harmony’s body in a cooler and stowed her over a vent in a shelter he shared with his wife and two sons. Then, he placed Harmony’s body in a closet when neighbors complained of the smell, and then snuck her remains into his workplace freezer.” In March 2020, he put her remains in a U-Haul and disposed of the remains at an undisclosed location.

Evil at its best? Adam Montgomery has admitted that he was guilty of abuse of a corpse and falsifying evidence but he has pleaded not guilty to second-degree murder, second-degree assault and witness tampering charges. He is pushing that part to his estranged wife, Kayla Montgomery. Whatever the case maybe, evil walks amongst us and that is the absolute truth.

RIP Harmony Montgomery

An angel rests in peace, free at last of the horrors that life chose to rest on her tiny shoulders.

The Man of the Hour

The first western interview between Putin and Tucker Carlson was “the best thing that ever happened to Vladimir Putin” according to Belgium’s former Prime Minister, Guy Verhofstadt. The 2-hour interview was a love fest between the two men with Tucker hardly getting a word in as Putin took the reins and let loose.

This song comes to mind:

“You walked into the party

Like you were walkin’ onto a yacht

Your hat strategically dipped below one eye

Your scarf it was apricot

You had one eye in the mirror

As you watched yourself gavotte.”

Putin had neither the hat nor the scarf but he knew exactly what he was doing. This was his opportunity to rant or rather “free speech” on his terms. His 30-second history lesson became a 30-something minute rant as the world watched in disbelief or as a friend put it, “It was enough to make your toes curl!” The suspected war criminal went full steam ahead and wasn’t going to be stopped, not by the former Fox News host, Tucker Carlson. It was his time to shine on the world stage and with his essay about denying Ukraine’s existence as a sovereign state safely turned away in a vault somewhere, he didn’t need it, he had it memorized word for word. Delivering the message with his beady eyes burning with conviction, he marched on to his own drumbeat.

He ranted about any and everything because he had to keep the interview going for two hours and that evidently was no problem. He could have gone on much longer and it didn’t matter that most of it was far from actual facts or reality. It was Putin’s reality and truth and that folks was what the interview was about.

When the interview was over, Tucker blinked with a clueless look on his face and said, “Thank you, Mr. President,” at the same time tucking his tail between his legs. If ever there was a lap dog, well, you know what I want to say.

The Control Freak

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“I’m not really a control freak but…..can I show you the right way to do that?” Unknown

In the Wizard of Oz, Dorothy gets on the Yellow Brick Road which will take her through Oz to the Emerald City where she hopes to meet the great and powerful Wizard. In the dating world, it could be the path to your one true love but alas it could also lead you to the big bad wolf, the one who will huff and puff and try to blow your house down!

Someone with a control freak personality is defined as “a person who tries to make others do things the way that they want, even if the other people prefer to do it another way, and even if the initial person has no good reason for interfering. More specifically, “a person who feels an obsessive need to put excessive control over themselves and others and to take command of any situation.”

Some reasons for this kind of behavior according to verywellhealth.com is that it provides the individual with “a sense of predictability, stability, and order.”

I wonder if we are giving too many “outs” to these individuals by trying to justify why they are this or that way? Perhaps the only explanation for this personality disorder is that these individuals have a nasty streak within them and “control” as they see it is just part and parcel of their daily existence. It’s my way or the highway and they’ve learned to get away with their obnoxious behavior.

What are the signs of controlling behaviour? According to Webmd.com, these individuals have the following behavior traits.

They insist on having things their way even when it comes to small issues that come down to personal choice.

They refuse to accept blame. You are to blame as far as they are concerned.

They need to be the center of attention and they love upstaging you. In the limelight is where they want to stand even if they have to stand on their heads to do it!

They’re unpredictable. One minute you’re the greatest thing since sliced bread and the next you are dirt under their feet. If you want to be on an emotional roller coaster then you are with the right person!

They lie because they want to control your reality. If you try to contradict them, then you’re the crazy one.

They want to be in charge of finances. They want to handle all of the money. It’s a way to place controls on you.

They dictate where you go and what you do. Controlling your movements gives them the upper hand in the relationship. They love sitting in the power seat. Threats, intimidation or anger are all used skillfully to get what they want.

Another name for this kind of abusive controlling behavior is “intimate terrorism.”

“If I was meant to be controlled, I would have come with a remote.” Kushandwizdom

Most are hard to spot but if you keep your eyes wide open and your senses tuned, sooner or later you will see through the niceness after one or two dates. If not, you’ll notice the signs as you get to know them. They get upset because you’re smiling too much or because you don’t want to move as quickly as they do or something whatever it is triggered something in them, most times you don’t even know what that is. Suddenly you realize that you are being watched and scrutinized for everything you do. Life with these individuals is like walking through a minefield hoping you don’t accidentally step on one and blow yourself up. It is more than stressful to say the least so if you spot them, DISCARD and move on. Dating is stressful enough as it is but if you find yourself being caged in, WALK AWAY!

“As long as everything is exactly the way I want it, I’m totally flexible!” Unknown

Uh….Uh, NO THANK YOU!

Scammers

“There are so many scams on the internet now a days. Send me $19.95 and I will tell you how to avoid them.” Unknown

Sounds funny doesn’t it but if truth be told those that have fallen prey to this group know that it is far from it. Heartbreak, sadness, feelings of loss not only of money but emotionally as well are the aftermath of being tangled in a scammer’s web of lies. There are plenty of these wolves in sheep’s clothing on the dating platforms and spotting them takes knowledge, know-how and treading carefully.

The men and women who prey on the weak, vulnerable and the lonely know exactly how to go about setting their nets and if you’re out there looking for true love online, be very careful.

Here’s how to spot these losers. According Aura.com, “Americans have lost over a billion dollars to romance scams in the past year alone,” not to mention world wide. It is a lucrative business for these unscrupulous individuals who don’t give two hoots about your heart, let alone your well-being. It is all about what they can get for nothing.

“The first step towards avoiding scams is to learn how to spot them.” Unknown

They have fake profiles and more often than not the photos are usually of attractive individuals with great smiles. Most of these photos are not their own.

They are quick to call it love even before having met you. Taking it to the next level in a short amount of time is their game plan. “I want to spend my life with you!” or “You are the woman of my dreams,” are the ploys used and for the lonely, it is a definite lure.

They push for personal information and try to move the conversation off the dating site and into somewhere more private so that they can skim personal data or information and use it to their advantage.

Once they have you hooked, the plan goes into action. Suddenly they need financial help and you’re the cash cow. Please send gift cards or cash to help me out of the predicament I am in is their usual battle cry and believe it or not many fall for it.

They will never meet in person and they will come up with numerous excuses for why they can’t. Usually they are on an oil rig faraway with only a cellphone but they can’t make calls but they can write you. So please add me to your social media platforms will be next. This will be followed by this is their last contract and they are retiring after that. Suddenly something goes wrong and they have no access to money so they need your help. It reeks of stupidity but not to people who fall for it. The scam continues as long as they can get something out of you but stops as soon as they realize it’s a dead-end.

How to outsmart a romance scammer? If you belong to the Lonely Hearts Club, remember that these lowlifes are looking for money, your money. Love is the last thing on their minds.

Ask for a current photo.

Request to meet in person.

Ask detailed questions because, “the devil is in the details.”

Request a video chat, this will never happen.

Ask for their phone number and if you do get it, it will be a fake number.

Their motto is:

“Let’s cut to the chase, you give me money and I’ll disappear faster than a magician with a rabbit.” Famstatistics.FM

If all else fails, remember what is too good to be true, usually is! Or you can say,

“I’m sorry, my scam detector is ringing.” Unknown

Whatever you do, know that they are out there in more numbers than you think possible so be cautious, get savvy and stay safe. It’s a jungle out there!

Narcissists

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Approach with caution or not at all! You will meet many different types of people when you put yourself out there in the dating scene so be careful. Here is one type that you need to stay away from at any cost if you want to walk away with your self-esteem and your mental state intact.

A young man sat by a river gazing at his own reflection. ”How beautiful he is. I wish I can be with him forever,” he said to his reflection. He was obsessed and couldn’t pull away. Eventually he died of thirst, hunger and unrequited love. His name was Narcissus and he was the son of the river god in Greek mythology. Narcissism originated from his name.

Narcissistic personality disorder is defined as “a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships and a lack of empathy for others.” According to the Mayo Clinic definition, they also have low self-esteem and are extremely sensitive to criticism.

“The narcissist devours people, consumes their output, and casts the empty, writhing shells.” Sam Vaknin

Scary? You better believe it. Ever met one of these walking disasters on your trek into the dating world? If not, you should thank your lucky stars. If yes, you know what I am talking about. The problem is you might be in a relationship with one of these types and not even know it because they are hard to spot. Here are some signs to look out for.

The number 1 trait of a narcissist is, “an unreasonably high sense of self-importance and they require constant, excessive admiration.” If that doesn’t make you want to slam the door shut on them, the following will help you to do exactly that. They are arrogant, lack empathy, are entitled, have feelings of superiority and grandiosity and they have a need to be powerful, successful, smart, admired or loved. They usually get away with wrongdoings and when denial doesn’t work, they turn to rage and all this at your cost I might add.

According to Dr. Brenda Wade, narcissists only think of themselves first and foremost, they want to win, they do not care about your feelings, they are always manipulating for their own personal gain and benefit and they make you think that you are the problem. Finally, gaslighting is their stock and trade.

Why haven’t you noticed these traits right from the start? It seems there is this thing called the ‘fantasy’ phase where you are idolized, more specifically it’s the where you can do nothing wrong phase, but it goes downhill from there.

“The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up. The phrase, “I never feel like I am enough” is the mantra of the person in a narcissistic relationship. That’s because to your narcissistic partner, you are not. No one is. Nothing is.” Ramani Durvasula.

If you have been in one of these relationships you might walk away questioning your self-worth, what you stand for and won’t stand for and more often than not it leaves you broken to the core afraid to step out there again. Where? The world of dating is fraught with many minefields as I have said before and this particular breed is nasty, uncaring and not worth your time. If you are going to be out there, arm yourself first with knowledge and if you should by chance meet a narcissist, RUN don’t walk!

“It’s so nice when toxic people stop talking to you. It’s like the trash took itself out.” Karen Salmansohn

Or this:

Relationships with narcissists are held in place by the hope of a ‘someday better,’ with little evidence to support it will ever arrive.” Ramani Durvasula

Finally this:

The Narcissist’s Prayer

That didn’t happen. And if it did, it wasn’t that bad. And if it was, that’s not a big deal. And if it is, that’s not my fault. And if it was, I didn’t mean it. And if I did, you deserved it. By Dayna Craig

She nailed it folks!

Mistakes

“You can pickup a mistake and carry it as a burden, or you can set it down and use it as a stepping stone to greatness.” Unknown

It has been said that a mistake is usually “an action, decision, or judgement that produces an unwanted or unintentional results.” Quite often than not, the unintentional results can be painful, it makes us doubt ourselves and our judgement of others. It also means that the outcome did not meet our expectations. Therefore, it was time wasted or more appropriately it was an investment that did not put forth what it was meant to do.

There are different kinds of mistakes. It can be related to cheating on a partner, allowing people to push you around, dating or marrying the wrong person, refusing to listen to good advice or quite simply a frivolous disregard to what is staring you in the face. It’s there as plain as day, it is clear that it’s a mistake to carry on and yet because of the time and energy spent in chasing that dream, whatever it maybe for you, we refuse to call it quits and move on. We refuse to accept it as a lesson learned or as a stepping stone to something better.

“A mistake that keeps being repeated is not a mistake, it’s a choice.” Unknown

Just like it is in Groundhog’s Day, we see a “series of unwelcome or tedious events appear to be recurring in exactly the same way,” and this is not only boring and irritating but it’s time to get off that emotional roller coaster and head for greener pastures. The choices we make are hard at times. I know that quite often I am stuck on redial. I know that I should hang up and start anew but the human side or rather the foolish side wants to hang on for just a while longer knowing full well that I should count it as a lost cause, sunken cost as they say in business, take the lesson learned with me and make the decision to not do it ever again. Sunk costs basically means “that costs have been incurred by past actions and they cannot be recovered and they are not relevant to our future decisions,” and yet we choose to repeat it over and over again. I am human, I say, but that is putting it mildly!

Perhaps, it would be easier if we can forget the mistakes but remember the lessons we’ve learned from our walks into the big wide world of MISTAKES LAND and believe me it is a jungle out there. We’ve all made them, we’ll continue to make them and more likely than not we’ll rush in with our eyes wide open BUT it is the picking up, dusting off and the moving on bit that matters here. Here’s to mistakes both big and small. Bring them on!

“When you make a mistake, there are only three things you should ever do about it: admit it, learn from it, and don’t repeat it.” Paul Bear Bryant

From your lips to God’s ears!